I talk about food a lot.
I realize this. Many of my posts from the road are about food and restaurants. It's my little way of promoting good places that are vegan or are kindly to vegans.
There are a lot of them!
Every now and again, I come across an establishment that is quite hostile to the non-traditional western dieter. A Bob Evans experience my good friend had shortly after going vegan where they told her to "go someplace else," comes to mind.
I don't really fault these people. We live in a society that is wary of anyone different than ourselves. Many folks are raised to believe that different equals wrong.
That doesn't change overnight.
Also, every establishment has the right to serve whatever it wants. Though I would love to see every restaurant have a viable veggie option, each place has their own market, niche, and clientele.
This is why I never visit a steakhouse or a seafood place, etc.
What does confuse me though are when asked about their options, a place turns hostile.
Usually, when someone is rude, there are a whole host of things involved in bringing about that side of someone.
But can we change that behavior? Should we?
When rudeness dwels from a place of ignorance or lack of information, is it our place to educate someone?
Sadly, we can't send the ghost of Christmas past, present & future after ever act of rudeness... can we?
No, probably not.
My advice for rudeness is typically to look past it, and to send prayers of compassion to that person. We all need more understanding. We all need more compassion.
So, I ask you to send some thoughts of compassion to the manager at the Courtyard in Brecksville.
I have to admit, that the rudeness I experienced there (including "is this just some lifestyle thing? no, we dont accomodate special needs.") riled me up a bit. I wanted to tell everyone I knew to go out and either vocally boycott the place or that everyone go in asking for vegan options.
But then I thought, what would that accomplish? It would satisfy my wounded ego, but would it be a constructive way to bring about change? Would this man be helped along to a place of greater understanding?
So I am sharing my experience. Do with it as you wish. And please send this man, and the countless more out there, the seeds of compassion.